اخر اخبار سامي بن سليمان الراجحي ( ٢٠١٥) / Update about Sami Sulaiman Alrajhi 2015

May 2015

May 2015

Assalamu Alaikom warahmatu Allahi wa barakatuhu,

Sami's footprints

Sami’s footprints at the Hospital

Sami turned 3 years old on January 30th, 2015 and many things had happened since his father abandoned us. In my previous posts there were a little bit of our story and everything we have gone though all these years, specially my efforts to get Sami’s freedom back and his papers done to be legal in Guatemala. I decided to remain quiet because I needed time to heal my heart. Believe me I was overwhelmed, super tried, and very frustrated because I want the best for Sami.

Sami's 3rd. Birthday!

Sami’s 3rd. Birthday!

I decided to break the silence because despite all my efforts I could not get Sami´s papers done even if I have tried everything but it is impossible to do it without Sami’s father signature. It is sad because Sami’s father pretends that nothing is happening, even though he knows that he is ruining our son’s future. Sami is a bright and very intelligent child Mashallah, so I strive to give the best to him but it has not been easy at all, especially because Sami is not legal in Guatemala and we cannot return to the United States because we owe the Guatemalan government a fine that increases every day ($10 per day since 2012). On my efforts to provide the best for Sami, I decided to apply to one of the best schools in Guatemala, so Sami will have better opportunities in the future, but Sami would not be accepted if he is not legal in Guatemala. For this reason, I am requesting any kind of help to make Sulaiman Abdulaziz Saleh Alrajhi sign the papers that the Guatemalan government requires for Sami to become legal. Believe me it is not easy to re-open the scar again, especially when I have learned how to live with it La hawla wala quwata illah billah.

On December 2013, I traveled to the Saudi Embassy in Washington D.C. I spent more than 24 hours in Atlanta waiting to travel to my final destination. I arrived around 1:30 p.m. to Washington and took a cab to the hostel where I was going to meet the friend who joined me during this nightmare. However, her flight was late so I had to take a quick shower and went to the Saudi Embassy by myself where I supposedly had a meeting with the consul. When I got there around 2:30 p.m. I was very nervous because I didn’t know what to expect, so I asked the receptionist (a men at the front desk) if I could see the consul and he let me in around 10 minutes later. I sat in the waiting area where people were coming in and out very fast but I had to wait until almost 4:30 p.m. when finally a man asked me what did I need. I asked to see the consul but they let me in to the Saudi Citizens department where I “spoke” with Mr. Hamad Al-Rasheed and a woman who was at the same office. Mr. Al-Rasheed asked the woman to asked me what I want, so the woman began to asked question that I answered and showed her all the paperwork that states that Sami is Sulaiman’s first and unique son. But while I was talking I just heard Mr. Al-Rasheed screaming something in Arabic and the woman answering him and the phone at the same time, so I believe that they didn’t care much about my situation. After 20 minutes Mr. Al-Rasheed told the woman to asked me to write a letter with everything that happened and come back the next day. When I went out of that office I felt mistreated and ended crying because I never thought that they were going to treat me like that. When I went out the receptionist asked me what happened and why I was crying, I saw in his eyes a lot of sympathy and he said “please, don’t worry Inshallah everything will be better tomorrow, you and other women don’t deserve what these men are doing.” So, I went back to the hotel where my friend was waiting for me, she expected to receive good news but what she got was a very frustrated friend. After dinner we decided to write the letter to the Saudi Embassy explaining the situation and what I am asking for (help to get Sulaiman’s signature on Sami’s papers to get his freedom). We worked on the letter until 3 a.m. and woke up very early to get to the Saudi Embassy at 8:00 a.m. but we couldn’t go because there were a snow alert and the Embassy was close even if there were no snow in Washington. We waited until the next day to finally get there, which was the most terrible experience I had during my trip. When we got there the receptionist was very kind, he wished me luck, bless my son and I, and said that he would be praying for justice. We had to wait around 30 minutes to finally meet the consul, which was very nice to us. He listened carefully and checked the papers that I brought that prove that Sulaiman is Sami’s father and that I really need his signature to get his freedom back. So later on, he walked us to the lawyers’ office but we understood that none of them wanted to help us because they were talking in Arabic and screaming, until Mr. Adnan Zaidan let us in to his office. I had to repeat once again the story and tell him that Mr. Hamad Al-Rasheed asked me to write a letter with all the information, so he asked my friend and I to follow him to meet Mr. Al-Rasheed once again. Mr. Al-Rasheed was walking to his office and when Mr. Zaidan talked to him about my situation he become very angry and began to scream a lot in Arabic to him and the consul remained quiet. The only thing I was able to understand was “Guatemala, right?” and he kept screaming. The consul was looking at me with empathy but he said nothing. Finally, Mr. Zaidan asked me to left the papers and the letter I wrote to be sent to Riyadh and they will let me know what happen. However, until this day (2015) I have not received any news from them and any time I have called they refuse to give me information or they make me wait until I get tired and end up hanging up the phone. When I went out of that office I was not able to see anyone, I was crying desperately and the only thing I wanted to do was running to the exit and breath because I felt destroyed, mistreated, and very frustrated. My friend didn’t know what to do, she said that everything will be alright, that we would find a way to get Sami’s papers and she began to asked Saudi people that were entering the Embassy for help but they just laughed, ignore her, or tell her that they were sorry while I was lying on the sidewalk crying inconsolably. Believe me the only thing I wanted was to hug my son but he was in Guatemala with my father and I still had to wait few days to see him again.

At the Saudi Embassy

At the Saudi Embassy

The day I went to Saudi Embassy to drop off the letter they asked for.

The day I went to Saudi Embassy to drop off the letter they asked for.

A good Saudi connected me to AWASSER – Back to the Roots Foundation. I was also in touch with Awasser though Mr. Osama Alghunaim. I sent an e-mail asking him to help Sami and he replied that he edited to send it to Dr. Tawfiq Al-Swailem but even if I wrote to him many times to see what happened he never replied.

E-mail 1

E-mail 1 to Awaseer

E-mail 2

E-mail 2 to Awaseer

E-mail 3

E-mail 3 to Awaseer

E-mail 4

E-mail 4 to Awaseer

E-mail 5

E-mail 5 to Awaseer

Failed to contact the Saudi Ministry of Foreign Affairs

Failed to contact the Saudi Ministry of Foreign Affairs

So after my failed attempts to seek help from Sulaiman’s father through the Mosque in Guatemala, went to the Saudi Embassy, and contacted Awasser to get Sami’s freedom I decided to write myself to Mr. Abdulaziz Saleh Abdullah Alrajhi hoping that he might be of help to get Sami’s papers done because I truly believe that he is a good person and Muslim. I wrote a message and sent some pictures of Sami, which he only replied “Salooomi.” After two days I got a call from Saudi Arabia, I was so nervous and I didn’t know who was it. To be honest I thought it was Sulaiman to complain about the message I sent to his father but it wasn’t him even if the voice was very similar. Actually the man said “Are you Sami’s mother?” so I began to laughed because I thought it was him, so I said “Saloom, you know who I am.” He said: “I am not Sulaiman but I am very close to him, his father asked me to contact you. Right now I don’t have time because I am in a coffee shop but I will contact you later.” The conversation was short and the first call got hanged up, so he called me again. After we finished the conversation my heartbeats were so strong and suddenly I began to cried because I remembered everything that has happened in few minutes (the good and the bad times just by hearing Sulaiman’s voice in someone else). To be honest, I thought that it was a bad joke but the next day the same man (Bader, Sulaiman’s oldest brother even if he said that he was his cousin and then Mr. Abdulaziz employee) called me to asked many questions about my relationship with Sulaiman and about Sami. While days passed by he asked me to see Sami though video chat, which I accepted and I also saw him (he was very alike to Sulaiman) but he didn’t see me. He said that Sami looks like Sulaiman and that he is his son. Actually, he was the second person from his family who has seen Sami though video chat and agreed that Sami is like a photocopy of his father.

We kept talking for some weeks until he said that Mr. Abdulaziz believes that Sami is his grandson but he wants to make sure though a DNA test. So he asked me to send sample of Sami DNA to begin the procedure to complete the papers that Sami needs to get his freedom. He began his research about how to do a DNA test while I was preparing everything in Guatemala. I told him that the DNA test was so expensive and I didn’t have the money to spend on it because being a single mother was so tough and I need to support Sami by myself. He said that they won’t pay for that and that if Sami was really his grandson he will make it up to Sami when the time comes. So I spent more than $300 for the DNA swab sample and on FedEx to send it to them. I went to “BIOLAB” to do the DNA on June 26th, 2014 and sent it to Mr. Abdulaziz the same date. On July 3rd, 2014 they went to picked up the sample and that day was one of the last days I spoke with Bader, who said that they need to go to UAE or Egypt to do the DNA test because in KSA is not allow to do it without the kid being present and that also is illegal to do it without the government permission. After that I tried to contact Bader but he refused my calls and even if he saw my messages he didn’t reply and if he did he would said that they were very busy because it was Ramadan or that Mr. Abdulaziz was not in town. Actually, I sent the sample of DNA for Ramadan because I thought that they would fear Allah and would do better on the Holy Month but apparently they didn’t care. Until this day I am still waiting for a response but they haven’t contact me even if Bader promise that he wouldn’t disappear until Sami has his papers done.

DNA Sample and FedEx tracking number

DNA Sample and FedEx tracking number

FedEx Delivered the DNA Sample

FedEx Delivered the DNA Sample

After everything I have done to try to get Sami’s freedom back, I have also learned many things and I don’t regret nothing because at least I will be able to tell my son that I tried my best to solve his situation. I have been teaching my son to respect and pray for his father and his family because I know that one day he will be able to forgive what they did to him even without getting to know him Allahu A’lam. I know that I am not the only one in this situation and that there are many women out there that don’t know what to do but my advice will be to pray for the fathers of their children because all of them will need to face Allah on the Day of Judgment and will need to answer why they mistreated their children. I know that is not easy to forget neither forgives but at the end they gave us the best in our lives, our kids. I have to confess that sometimes I’m still sending e-mails to Sulaiman to let him know about Sami, I am not sure if he read it or just ignore it but at the end I want to let him know that I don’t hate him, that the doors are open if he wants to talk to Sami or be part of his life, and also if he wants to see pictures of Sami as he is growing up. I want him to know that I already forgive him for the pain he caused even if I will never forget want he did to us.

Three years ago the love of my life came to change my whole world. Shukran Abu Sami!

Three years ago the love of my life came to change my whole world. Shukran Abu Sami!

Sulaiman I know that somehow you will read this, so please let me THANK YOU! Maybe you won’t understand why I am so thankful to you after you destroyed my heart but believe me I loved you more that everything. However, let me thank you for letting me give enough love to our son as if you were here. Thank you for giving him those dark eyes that I love to see every day. Thank you for giving me a great story to tell him when it’s time to talk about love. Believe me Sulaiman, I cannot imagine not having Sami in my life because he has taught me the real meaning of love. Please be assured, that I will always be thankful because without you I wouldn’t know what it would be to have the love of my life by my side eacha nd every day for the rest of my life inshallah. Thank you B6h for giving me the gift of love, our son.

Allah ybarek feekom.

E-mail: mandrechang.sami@gmail.com

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته .

أكمل ابني سامي ٣ سنوات في الـ٣٠ من شهر يناير ٢٠١٥ وقد حدثت أشياء كثيرة منذ تخلي ولده عنا، في تدوينتي السابقة كان هناك القليل من قصتنا وكل ما عانيناه خلال هذه السنوات ، خصوصًا ما نعانيه من جهد في إرجاع حرية طفلي سامي وأوراقه الثبوتية ليصبح مقيمًا شرعيًا في ( غواتيمالا ) ، لقد قررت أن آخذ وقتًا مستقطعًا من الهدوء لكي يستطيع قلبي أن يتعافى ، صدقوني لقد كنت مغرقة بالهموم ومتعبة جدًا ، ومليئة بالإحباط لكوني أريد الأفضل لطفلي ( سامي ).

ولكني أخيرًا قررت أن أكسر حاجز الصمت لأنه بالرغم من كل جهودي لم أستطع الحصول على الأوراق الثبوتية لـ(سامي) رغم محاولاتي اللانهائية ، ولكنها تعتبر من المستحيلات بدون أن يقوم والد ( سامي ) بالتوقيع ، المحزن في الأمر ليس فقط عدم شرعية إقامة سامي ولكن والده يتظاهر أنه لا شيء يحدث رغم معرفته التامة بأنه بذلك يدمر مستقبل ابنه .
سامي طفل ذكي وموهوب جدا – ماشاء الله – وهذا ما يدفعني لبذل الأفضل له رغم أنه في وضعي الحالي ليس بالأمر السهل إطلاقًا، خاصة أن سامي ليس مقيمًا شرعيًا في (غواتيمالا ) ولا نستطيع العودة للولايات المتحدة الأمريكية لكوننا مدينين للحكومة الغواتمالية غرامة تتضاعف يوميًا ( ١٠ دولارات يوميًا من عام ٢٠١٢ أي ما يقارب ٣٧ ريال يوميًا)، ولمحاولتي تقديم الأفضل لابني سامي قررت أدخاله واحدة من آفضل المدارس في ( غواتيمالا ) ليكون لسامي فرصة لمستقبل آفضل ، ولكن ذلك للأسف لن يكون ممكنًا لكونه مقيم غير قانوني ، لهذا السبب فأني أطالب أي طريقة للمساعدة لجعل ( سليمان بن عبدالعزيز بن صالح الراجحي ) يوقع الأوراق المطلوبة للحكومة الغواتمالية لجعل إقامة ابني سامي شرعية ، صدقوني أنه ليس من السهل إعادة فتح الجراح خصوصًا عندما تعلمت كيف أعيش بـ ( لا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله ).

في ديسمبر ٢٠١٣ سافرت إلى السفارة السعودية في واشنطن العاصمة وقضيت أكثر من ٢٤ ساعة في أطلانطا أنتظر زحلة لوجهتي الأخيرة ، إلى أن وصلت لواشنطن حوالي الساعة ١:٣٠ ظهرًا أخذت سيارة الأجرة للوصول إلى الفندق الذي كنت سألتقي فيه صديقةً أنضمت إلي لمحاربة هذا الكابوس المزعج لمساعدتي – جزاها الله خيرًا – ، كانت رحلتها متأخرة فأخذت دشًا سريعًا وسبقتها للسفارة السعودية لوحدي حيث كان من المفترض أن نلتقي القنصل السعودي ، وصلت للسفارة حوالي الساعة ٢:٣٠ بعد الظهر وقد كنت متوترة جدًا لكوني لم أكن أعلم مالذي سأواجهه ، سألت ( الاستقبال – الرجل الذي يجلس في المكتب الأمامي ) إذا كان بإمكاني مقابلة القنصل فأخبرني أن أنتظر ١٠ دقائق تقريبًا ، وتركني جالسة في منطقة الانتظار بينما الناس يدخلون ويخرجون بسرعة ، لكني انتظرت إلى مايقارب الساعة ٤:٣٠ بعد العصر ، وأخيرًا سألني رجل عن ماذا أريد ، طلبت منه مرة أخرى مقابلة القنصل لكنهم أدخلوني لقسم المواطنين السعوديين حيث تحدثت للسيد ( حمد الرشيد ) وكان هناك امرأة في نفس المكتب والتي طلب منها الاستاذ حمد سؤالي عن مالذي أريده ، بدأت المرأة في طرح الأسئلة والتي أجبت عليها وأريتها الوثائق والأوراق التي تثبت أن سامي هو الابن الأول والوحيد لسليمان ، ولكن في أثناء حديثي سمعت الأستاذ حمد الرشيد يصرخ عليها شيئًا باللغة العربية ثم تجيبه المرأة ويقوم بالرد على الهاتف دون أية مراعاة لحديثي ، مما أعطاني يقينًا أنهم لم يهتموا لوضعي إطلاقًا ، بعد ذلك بـ ٢٠ دقيقة تقريبًا طلب السيد الرشيد من المرأة الطلب مني أن أكتب رسالة تتضمن جميع ما حدث والعودة في اليوم المقبل ، عندما خرجت من المكتب شعرت بالإحباط والظلم والذي انتهى بانفجاري باكية لكوني لم أعتقد أبدًا أنه ستتم معاملتي بهذا الشكل ، وفي الطريق لخروجي خارج السفارة أوقفني موظف الاستقبال وسألني مالذي حدث ولم أبكي ؟ ، رأيت في عينيه الكثير من التعاطف وقال لي :” من فضلك لا تقلقي ، غدًا سيصبح كل شيء أفضل – إن شاء الله – ، أنت والكثير من النساء غيرك لا تستحقون ما يفعله بكم هؤلاء الرجال “ ، وهكذا عدت للفندق حيث كانت صديقتي تنتظرني ، كانت تتوقع أن تحضى مني بأخبار جيدة ولكنها حصلت على صديقة محبطة لا غير.

بعد العشاء قررنا كتابة رسالة للسفارة السعودية نشرح فيها الوضع كاملًا ومالذي أطلبه بالضبط منهم ( وهو إحضار توقيع سليمان لأوراق سامي للحصول على حريته في الإقامة ) اشتغلنا على الأوراق حتى الساعة ٣ فجرًا ، واستيقظنا مبكرين أيضًا للذهاب إلى السفارة من الساعة ٨ صباحًا ولكننا للأسف لم نستطع الذهاب لوجود تنبيه بعاصفة ثلجية وإغلاق السفارة رغم عدم نزول الثلج في واشنطن ، فانتظرنا إلى اليوم التالي حيث ذهبنا إلى هناك – والتي كانت أسوء تجربة لي في رحلتي – عند وصولنا إلى هناك كان موظف الاستقبال لطيفًا جدًا معنا تمنى لنا التوفيق ودعى الله أن يحفظ لي ابني وقال أنه سيدعوا لي بأن ينصفني الله ممن ظلمني ، انتظرنا ما يقارب النصف ساعة إلى أن سمح لنا أخيرًا بمقابلة القنصل والذي كان لطيفًا جدًا معنا ، استمع إلينا بإنصات وتفقد الأوراق التي أحضرتها والتي تثبت أن سليمان هو والد سامي ، وأيضًا حاجتي الماسة لتوقيع سليمان لينال سامي حريته ، بعد ذلك قام بأخذنا إلى مكتب المحامين القانونين ، لكننا لم نفهم شيئا مما يريدون لكونهم يتكلمون بالعربية وبأصوات تشبه الصراخ ، إلى أن قام السيد ( عدنان زيدان ) بإدخالنا إلى مكتبه أعدت القصة الكاملة له مرة أخرى وأخبرته أن السيد ( حمد الرشيد ) طلب كتابة رسالة فيها جميع المعلومات ، لذا فقد قام بالطلب مني أنا وصديقتي باللحاق به لمكتب السيد حمد الرشيد مرة أخرى ، حيث واجهنا الأستاذ حمد عائدا إلى مكتبه وحين تحدث معه الأستاذ عدنان عن حالتي أصبح غاضبًا جدًا وبدأ يصرخ عليه باللغة العربية ولكن القنصل بقي هادئًا جدا ، كانت الجملة الوحيدة التي كنت قادرة على فهمها هي ( غواتيمالا ، صح ؟؟ ) ، أثناء صراخه كان القنصل ينظر إلي بتعاطف لكنه لم يقل شيئا ، وأخيراً طلب مني السيد عدنان زيدان ترك الأوراق والرسالة التي كتبتها ليقوم بإرسالها إلى الرياض ، وأنهم سيقومون بإطلاعي على المستجدات لاحقًا .

لكن حتى هذا اليوم من عام ٢٠١٥ لم يصلني أي خبر منهم ، وحين محاولتي الاتصال بهم فإنهم يرفضون إعطائي أي معلومات أو يطلبون مني الانتظار إلى أن أتعب وأقوم بإغلاق الخط ، عندما خرجت من المكتب لم أكن قادرة على رؤية أي شخص كنت أبكي بشدة ، والشيء الوحيد الذي كنت أشعر به هو الخروج من هذه الدوامة والتنفس بعمق ، شعرت بالإحباط الشديد والإهانة والظلم ، صديقتي لم تعرف كيف تتصرف أخبرتني أن كل شيء سيكون على مايرام وأننا سوف نجد طريقة لنكمل أوراق سامي ، حتى أنها بدأت في الطلب من الأشخاص السعوديين الذين يدخلون السفارة للمساعدة ، لكن بعضهم قام بالضحك ومنهم من تجاهلها وبعضهم أخبرها أنهم آسفين ، بينما جالسة على الرصيف أبكي بطريقة هستيرية ، صدقوني الشيء الوحيد الذي كنت أتمناه في هذه اللحظة اليائسة هو عناق ابني ولكنه كان مع والدي في غواتيمالا بينما كنت لازلت مضطرة للانتظار بضعة أيام للقائه.
أصدقاء سعوديون طيبون أوصلوني بـ ( أواصر ) مرة أخرى – مؤسسة متخصصة للأسر والأبناء السعوديين المنقطعين بالخارج – وقد كنت في اتصال معها من خلال السيد ( أسامة الغنيم ) ، أرسلت إيميلًا لسؤاله لمساعدة سامي وأجابني بأنه عدلها لأرسالها للدكتور توفيق السويلم ، ولكنه بالرغم من كتابتي له عدة مرات لمعرفة ماذا حدث فإنه لم يقم بالرد .

حتى بعد محاولاتي الفاشلة في البحث عن المساعدة من والد سليمان من خلال المسج في غواتيمالا ، وذهابي للسفارة السعودية ، واتصالي بـ (أواصر ) للحصول على حرية سامي ، قررت أن أكتب بنفسي للسيد ( عبدالعزيز بن صالح بن عبدالله الراجحي ) آملة أن يكون عونًا للحصول على أوراق سامي النهائية ، وذلك لكوني أؤمن حقًا بأنه أنسان صالح ، كتبت رسالة له وأرفقت معها العديد من الصور لسامي ، والتي رد عليها بـ ( سلووومي ) فقط لا غير ، بعد يومين جائني اتصال من المملكة العربية السعودية ، كنت متوترة جدًا ولم أكن أعرف من المتصل ، في الحقيقة كنت أظنه سيكون سليمان يشتكي من إرسالي للرسالة إلى والده ، لكنه لم يكن هو رغم تشابه الصوت، قال لي الرجل : “ هل أنتِ أم سامي ؟ “ بدأت بالضحك لأني ظننت أنه هو سليمان ، فأجبته : “ سلووم ، أنت تعلم من أنا “ فقال لي : “ أنا لست سليمان لكني شخص قريب منه جدًا ، والده طلب مني الاتصال بك ، حاليًا أنا مشغول لكوني في مقهى ولكني سوف أتصل بك لاحقًا “ المحادثة كانت قصيرة جدًا وقطع المكالمة الأولى بسرعة ، ولكنه عاد للاتصال مرة أخرى ، بعد أن أنهينا محادثتنا ، قلبي كان ينبض بشدة وللأسف بدأت بالبكاء لأنني تذكرت كل شيء حصل لي في بضع دقائق – الأوقات الجيدة والسيئة فقط بسماع صوت سليمان بواسطة شخص آخر – ، في الحقيقة ظننت أنها مجرد مزحة سيئة ولكن في اليوم التالي اتصل بي نفس الشخص ( بدر – الأخ الأكبر لسليمان حتى وإن قال بداية أنه ابن عمه أو كما قال بعدها أنه موظف عند والده السيد عبد العزيز ) كلمني وسألني عدة أسئلة عن علاقتي بسليمان وعن سامي، خلال أيام طلب مني أن يرى سامي بواسطة محادثة فيديو فوافقت ورأيته أيضًا ( كان شديد الشبه بسليمان ) لكنه لم يرني ، أخبرني أن سامي يشبه سليمان وأنه ابنه ، في الحقيقة لقد كان ثاني شخص من عائلته من رأى سامي من خلال محادثة فيديو واتفق أن سامي هو نسخة مصورة من أبيه .
بقينا على اتصال لعدة أسابيع إلى أن أخبرني أن السيد عبدالعزيز يؤمن أن سامي هو حفيده ولكنه يريد التأكد من خلال أختبار الحمض النووي (DNA ) ، لذا فقد طلب مني إرسال عينة للحمض النووي ( DNA ) الخاص بسامي لبدء إجراءات إكمال الأوراق التي يحتاجها سامي ليحصل على حريته ، وبدأ ببحثه عن كيفية اختبار الحمض النووي بينما أقوم بتجهيز كل شيء في غواتيمالا، أخبرته أن اختبار الحمض النووي يعتبر باهض الثمن وأنا لا أستطيع تحمل تكاليفه لكوني أمًا وحيدة وهو أمر صعب وأني محتاجة لدعم سامي لوحدي ، فأخبرني أنه لن يقوم بالدفع للاختبار وأنه إن كان سامي هو حفيده حقيقةً فإنه سيقوم بتعويضه عندما يحين الوقت، لذا فإني أنفقت أكثر من ٣٠٠ دولار ( أي ما يقارب ١١٢٥ ريال ) لمسحة عينة الحمض النووي ولـ FEDEX للشحن الدولي لإرسالها لهم ، حيث ذهبت للمعمل البيولوجي “BIOLAB” للقيام بفحص الحمض النووي في الـ٢٦ من يونيو ٢٠١٤ وأرسل للسيد عبدالعزيز في نفس اليوم ، وفي يوم الـ٣ من يوليو ٢٠١٤ ذهبوا لأخذ العينة وكانت هذه هي آخر الأيام التي تحدثت فيها مع ( بدر ) ، الذي قال لي أنهم بحاجة للذهاب إلى الإمارات أو مصر للقيام باختبار الحمض النووي لأنه من غير المسموح القيام به في المملكة العربية السعودية من دون حضور الطفل شخصيًا وأن هذا في حد ذاته غير قانوني للقيام به بغير تصريح حكومي.
بعد ذلك حاولت الاتصال مع ( بدر ) لكنه قام برفض الرد على الاتصالات وحتى مع رؤيته لرسائلي لكنه لم يقم بالرد عليها ، وإذا قام بالرد وهو أمر نادر الحدوث فأنه يتعلل بكونهم منشغلين جدًا لكونه شهر رمضان أو أن السيد عبدالعزيز ليس في المدينة حاليًا، في الحقيقة لقد قمت بإرسال عينة الحمض النووي في شهر رمضان لأنني اعتقدت أنهم سوف يخافون الله ويبذلون أقصى مايمكنهم في هذا الشهر الفضيل ، ولكن اتضح لي أنهم لم يهتمو، إلى هذا اليوم وأنا أنتظر استجابة لكنهم لم يقوموا بالاتصال بي رغم وعود ( بدر ) أنه لن يختفي حتى يكمل سامي جميع أوراقه.
بعد جميع مافعلته لمحاولة إعادة حرية ابني سامي، علمني هذا الكثير من الدروس ولم أندم على شيء لأنني على الأقل استطيع اخبار ابني أني فعلت أفضل ما يمكنني فعله لحل مشكلته، لقد علمت ابني كيف يحترم أباه ويدعو له ولعائلته لأني أعلم أنه سيكون يومًا ما قادرًا على التسامح ومغفرة مافعلوه به حتى من دون أن يعرفوه حق المعرفة والله أعلم ، أنا أعرف أني لست الوحيدة التي تمر بنفس المشكلة وأن هناك الكثير من النساء اللاتي لا يعرفن ماذا يفعلن ولكن نصيحتي لهن هو الدعاء لأب أولادهن لأن الجميع سوف يقابل الله -عز وجل- في يوم الحساب وسيحتاجون الإجابة أمامه عن سبب ظلمهم لأطفالهم، أعرف حقًا أنه ليس بالأمر السهل النسيان فكيف بالغفران لكنهم في النهاية أعطونا أفضل شيء نعيشه في حياتنا كلها ، أطفالنا .
أعترف أني أحيانًا لا أزال أرسل الإيميلات لسليمان لأجعله يعرف أخبار سامي ، ولست متأكدة أذا كان يقرأها أو يتجاهلها ولكني في النهاية أريده أن يعرف أني لا أكرهه ، أن الباب مفتوح دومًا له إن أراد التحدث مع سامي أو أن يكون جزءًا من حياته ، وأيضًا إن كان يريد أن يرى صورًا لسامي في مختلف مراحل حياته، أريده أن يعرف أني أغفر له جميع الآلام التي تسبب بها وإن كنت لن أنسى أبدًا مافعله بنا .
( سليمان ) أعرف أنك سوف تقرأ هذا بطريقة أو بأخرى، لذا أرجوك أسمح لي أن أقول لك : شكرًا جزيلًا ! أعتقد أنك لن تفهم أبدًا سبب امتناني لك بعد أن حطمت قلبي لكن صدقني لقد أحببتك .. أكثر من أي شيء .
مع ذلك أسمح لي أن أشكرك لجعلي أعطي الحب الكافي لابننا كما لو كنت هنا، شكرا لإعطاءه هاتين العينين السوداويين والتي أحب أن أراها كل يوم ، شكرًا لك لأعطائي قصة رائعة لأخبره بها حينما يكون الوقت مناسبًا للحديث عن الحب، صدقني سليمان لا أستطيع تخيل حياتي بدون وجود سامي فيها ، لأنه علمني المعنى الحقيقي للحب ، كن مطمئنًا أنني سوف أكون ممتنة دومًا لأنه لولاك لن أكون قادرة على معرفة ما الذي يعنيه وجود حب حياتي بجانبي دائماً ، كل ثانية ، كل يوم ، لباقي حياتي – إن شاء الله -.

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  1. olga

    I feel sorry for what happened to you and your son.. I want to know from which place this man here in ksa from??

    • Thank you Olga. Sulaiman lives in Riyadh but what i know is that his grandfather was from AlQaseem. Also he has family in Jeddah.

      • You know dear I want to tell you something.. I know how it feels to be alone especially when you are raising a child.. But knowing them especially Saudi men, I’m not saying all of them are bad.. Coz in every place there are people who are good and some of them also are bad.. Its just that you will never know this person if you never tried to live in their country.. What I’m saying is that no matter how much you tried to asked help to this man.. If he really don’t have a heart to give any sympathy to your son all your efforts will come to nothing.. Believe me I’ve been to your situation before.. And I know how really hard it is.. Saudi culture is very far different from All other gulf countries.. Here before they marry other nationalities both of you will go through hell just to have this permission letter.. Especially if you don’t know anyone (wasta) who can help and assist this paper. Honestly the hardest part of being in a relationship with a Saudi is that someday you should be willing to let him go if his family decides this guy to marry Saudi woman.. Though the fate depends on the hands of a guy.. Knowing the family traditions, he will still follow and listens to his Mom.. Bear in your mind that your not the only one fighting for the right of your son.. Here in Saudi Arabia when the man have no balls to stand for his responsibility as a Father.. And just in case he will not acknowledge the baby..the custody will goes to the Mother. Sadly to say, in Islam the baby born out of wedlock is Haram.. Its hurts but this is a Fact.. We sometimes as a woman when in love we gave up everything, not knowing the real intentions of this guy.. If this man really have a heart he will not wait you to do the initiative coz he already knows his responsibility.. But whatever reasons he may have.. Why he did that..only God knows.. Just be strong for your son.. Live everything to God.. He knows your pain.. He can make a way when there seems to be no way.. God bless you..

      • Thanks a lot for your words. I do understand everything you said and it’s sad that there are many kids fatherless. It has been very frustrated because I’m just asking Sulaiman to sign his papers to become legal in Guatemala because there is no point for Sulaiman to share custody with me if he is not in Sami’s life. Sulaiman is legally his father in the US where he signed Sami’s papers to recognize Sami. God bless you too.

      • Thanks for you words and May God bless you too. I do understand everything you have said and believe me it has become so frustrating because there is no point for us to share Sami’s custody when actually Sulaiman is not in Sami’s life. I am just asking him to give up his rights and to sign the papers that will help Sami to get his freedom back and have a normal life.

  2. Sal

    Its really breaking heart story. I wish I could help. His famile is one on the richest familes in Saudi. So if you have Pics of sam’s father do your best to show it to the media. This is your way and the only way to get him. The most be worred about there reputations.

    • Sami’s father pictures are in this blogs… This is my third post trying to find someone willing to help Sami to get his freedom back… Thanks a lot for you words. Inshallah one day he will get justice.

  3. Yazed

    Hey sister, were you married to him or not?

  4. n/a

    These organizations will not help you. If you want your story to reach a larger Saudi audience then contact Khaled Batarfi, a journalist who has written on this.
    Also, the advice to other women in similar situation to just pray for the father is not going to actually help the child, which is what this is really about. And giving moral judgement, about people’s incentives during Ramadan, is immature especially given that your circumstances are the result of immoral actions (according to your chosen religion). Keep that in mind, Mandre. I say this not as a Saudi Muslim, but as an adult equivalent of your son.

    • Hello n/a,

      I appreciate your comments. Mr. Khaled Batarfi wrote about Sami on 2012 (http://www.saudigazette.com.sa/index.cfm?method=home.regcon&contentid=20121211145658) and I wrote to him few months ago about Sami’s case but nothing has been published yet. I know that praying for the father of our kids will not solve the situation but it is helpful to believe that one day everything will solve. In my case, I’m teaching Sami to pray for his father because I don’t want him to carry out hate inside his heart and we always need to bless the people who do wrong to us. However, each women will decide what to do and how to handle the situation. On the other hand, I decided to sent the DNA test for Ramadan because I started to talk with Bader like two weeks before Ramadan and also because Ramadan is a time of spiritual reflection and because people are expected to put more effort into following the teachings of Islam regarding their immoral actions. Once again thanks for your comments.

  5. Eve J.

    Dear Mandre I am very sorry to hear that until now no one has been able to fix you and Samis problem. If I were you I would just forget about Sulaiman FOR NOW. One day when Sami is a man and asks about his baba just tell him the truth and believe me he will not forgive him until the day of Judgement. He deserves that. Don’t waste your time and feelings with these organizations — unless you have proof you were married to Sulaiman they will ignore you no matter how much DNA tests or blog posts you make : – (

    My friend went through this same issue with her child’s father but eventually it was settled out of court and she didn’t see or hear from him for a long time. She doesn’t know if his intentions were to really help his child or just get to see her, only God knows. Now they are living in Saudi but have no contact with him because he is married and has another life that’s very different than theirs. They say the impossible never happens but it can. Take from my friends experience: don’t go down the same route you have been taking because it will get you nowhere. Let time do its thing and eventually something will happen and Sulaiman will contact you (unless his family has strictly forbidden it or had him marry a cousin)… do yourself a favor and delete all of these posts and move on :-*

    God bless ❤

    • Salam Eve,

      Thanks for your words, as you said it’s been awhile since i am trying to get my son’s papers but it has been a long and tough journey. However, I already moved on regarding Sulaiman and if Sami asks about his dad he will knows the truth according to his age. Actually Sami has stated to ask about his father and he carries a picture of Sulaiman, so he knows who his father is, inshallah he won’t carry out hate inside his heart.

      I am sorry about your friends situation but i am glad she found the way to do the best for her child. My case, is not about Sulaiman is about trying to get Sami’s papers to be free to do whatever he wants without his father permission. Sami is already recognized by his father in the USA, which is the major problem because we share custody, rights, and responsibilities. So if i have been trying to find a solution through this blog and media is because regarding all the proofs that these organizations already have they have done nothing to help Sami to get his freedom, I am not asking for money nor Sulaiman to be present in Sami’s life because that is his decision and is not the target. I am just requesting a signature that will help Sami to live a normal life as any other children.

      Once again, thanks for your words and many blessings.

    • She can not delete these posts and simply move on. It is not a question of her inability to move on from Suliman it is that her and her son are stuck in her native country and her son is not a citizen of that country but a us citizen and she is paying daily fines. Don’t minimize her situation by assuming her situation is like your friends, clearly it is not even close.

      • Abdulla Aldark

        True. I wonder how she even puts up with such situation, and writes nice words to the guy called Sulaiman. It is beyand my understanding.

      • He is the father of my son and even if he has been very bad to his own son we need to respect him. Without Sulaiman I wouldn’t have the best thing of my life, which is Sami.

  6. Ahmed

    I am very sorry to hear your situation, but here are some suggestions i would suggest you to do.

    1- Start a youtube channel and start recording your child and your story, do not forget to upload the video with Arabic subtitle and Arabic and English tittle.
    start recording videos targeting Guatemalan Authority. Explain the situation for them. If you can also get a copy of the signature of the father that he singed in America as he is the father with a confirmation of the department that issued the statment. And show the Guatemalan goverment that he is the father, but you did everything you could to contact him without getting any response.

    2- try to contact famous people and explain the situation to them to make your chaneel well know, so your voice can be heard. Especially Arab famous people.

    Alrajhi Family is very rich in Saudi, if your voice can be heard to many people in Saudi Arabia, for sure they will do something about it. I hope you situation is going to be solved

    • Thanks Ahmed, for the suggestions and comments. May Allah bless you always and Inshallah i will do my best to get Sami’s papers.

  7. Yazed

    You did not answer me, were you married to him or not?
    This is very crucial information.

  8. Yazed

    ok, my apologizes.

    However, there was a reply by (dazler from ksa) to her why Suleiman and his family behaved in such negative way toward the kid. Unfortunately, the reply was in Arabic and maybe she did not understand it.

    But in short words, the child resulted from adultery relationship (and yes that the only name in Islam for such relation outside marriage like it or not) is belong the mother (i.e. carry her name, and financial responsibility) and he doesn’t inherit his father neither his father do.

    So, you should did your due diligence before you get involve in such relation with him resulting an innocent child have nothing to do with his patent selfishness.

    In the other hand, we all fell sympathy toward Sami, and we all think that Suliman should at least help you to let Sami go back to US.

    • Sorry brother, I didn’t read your post before. What dazler from KSA said in Arabic? there are many comments that I don’t understand but also i am not expecting all the comments to be kind or emphatic. Sami legally carry out his father last name on his birth certificate, actually he appears as the legal father and when he signed the Acknowledgement of paternity in the state of Texas, he refused to do a DNA test because he strongly believe that Sami is his son (and unique by the moment). Also Sulaiman and I share custody, rights, and responsibilities toward Sami but I am the only one that is doing it, and wallah that is not the problem, the main problem is that I am asking Sulaiman to sign Sami’s papers to be legal in Guatemala, so we can choose whether to live in Guatemala or go back to the states, and also i will stop paying the daily fine that we own the government. Also Sulaiman can choose to give up his rights toward our son and let him live a normal life as any other kid. I do appreciate your kind words about Sami.

    • Maram

      That’s the exact words! I hope this clears her mind. I hope you can find ways to go back to USA for his studies. May Allah guide you.

      • Abdulla aldark

        You are disgusting really, so the adultry happens from one person.
        That why, shg is to pay for the mistake.
        Sulaiman, is an angle, he is innocent , he can go and do it over and over to other women.
        You know, it is a promise, by the prophet pbuh…what ever you do to others well come back to you,….I am sure you know that much..
        So congratulation to Sulaiman, on his family that he builds.

  9. sunny

    what is the difference between a kid out of wedlock because the idiot family of the father doesn’t approve and makes blackmail against the childs father to stay away from the kid and mother, [that he clearly had relations to with pictures and all] and being a concubine [ glamorized word for whore or open sex slave] which prince BANDAR was born from. Saudis are the most ignorant animals species on the face of this earth. pure psycho characters. I assure you mande you are lucky this is happening to you. your son will be messed up if it happened the other way. he is safe with you and only you. take the pic of his father away from him because you are not doing any justice to the poor child but letting him know the kids father is alive and ignoring him. you need to take psychology classes on the mental abuse you are doing to him. not what you think is best. it is so wrong. he is learning how to be confused rejected. and would be better off not to mention it or tell him he is dead, or you have no idea where he is.
    and why cant you just forge his name on a stupid paper. find a friend with some pull and get it notarized and do it. stop this fantasy of thinking he will come back to you. if it was me, I got friends that will notarize my papers and done. and yes I have done it. it works. because you never said he needed to be present for the paper signing

    • Dear Sunny,

      I don’t know why you are misunderstanding the main point of this post… Believe me, the point of posting is not to get Sulaiman back to my life because I don’t want someone who left me when I most needed him but I do respect him as the father of our son. On the other hand, I don’t think I am doing any harm to my son to let him know who his father is, because lying to him about Sulaiman being dead won’t solve anything and is not an option for me, I think Sami has the right to know about his father whether his is in his life. Obviously, he will know that his father is in Saudi Arabia but he doesn’t need to know the whole story or how things happened exactly. Also lying to him can cause more harm because if later on he knows that I lie to him he will hate me. Also Sami has begun to ask about his father, and he talks about his father normally without feeling rejected or bad about his father not being on his life. But I respect your point of view.

      However, as I have explained many times before, Sulaiman signed the acknowledgement of paternity in the state of Texas to recognize Sami as his son. So He is not just the biological father but also has rights and responsibilities toward Sami, including that we share custody of our son. Also, if was that easy to sign a “stupid paper” as you called, believe me I would do it long time ago without throwing my money and energy away in DNA test, Lawyers, FedEx deliveries, not to include all the time I went to the Ministry of Foreign Affairs in Guatemala, Migrations office, and the US Embassy, and moreover wasting a lot of money to went to the Saudi Embassy in Washington. Believe me, I won’t be exposing my life is this problem was so easy to solve but unfortunately is not, Sulaiman needs to travel to Guatemala to sign that paper or travel to a Guatemalan Embassy to sign it. Believe me, is not cool to feel frustrated because is not in your hands to solve your own son future but I will never give up until I get my son’s freedom inshallah.

      • Abdulla Aldark

        Such an honest woman, trying to do the right things. I am sure some day, you problem will be solved insha Allah. Just lean on Allah, you never know what his plans are for you and your son. Your case is very interesting, hope to see more improvement in it. I can’t say bad about Saudi people, because of few people’s behaviour. To tell you the trouth , I am not from Saudis Arabia, but the fact is, Sami will not be recognised legally as Sulaiman’s son, because of a merraige issue, which means he can’t inherent his biological father. I also think, he will not be able to sign any paper in any Saudy office officially as a father for the same reason, however he will be able to do that in guatimal and else where, I can’t understand why he doesn’t want to do that, it is an easy thing to do, specially since he has done it already in USA. I think he is concrned about his safety. You should try to suggest if can go and meet you and fix this in any country, that your embassy is there and he also feels safe. Try UAE, very close to KSA, and very organized. Wish you the best.

      • Thanks for your words Abdulla, I am just trying to get Sulaiman’s signature to stop the fine and to live a regular life. Sami won’t be able to move freely until his father sign this papaer. I am not asking Sulaiman or any Saudi Organization to give my son nationality of any other paper because he is fine with his nationality. I don’t believe Saudi people are bad, however, i think that Sulaiman can do better because i am not asking him the world, i am not asking him for money or any material thing, I am just asking Sulaiman to sign the paper and set his son free of him having right over our son specially if he won’t be on his life. Also if i still have nice words to Sulaiman is because he is the father of Sami and even he caused the biggest pain i will ever feel, he also gave me the opportunity to be the mother of a wonderful boy.

    • Your advice to her is to lie to her son about his father and illegally falsify government paperwork? Surely you can’t be serious.

      • Abdulla Aldark

        Sure he is serious, he is no difference than Sulaiman, it is easy to spot that.

    • Abdulla Aldark

      You are a corrupted person, giving stuped advice’s, who will lestin to such non since rubbish. Be constructive, give. One valuable ideas which will help to go on a right direction. She already is suffering, because of people like you, liers, and ignorant who who pick the easiest route and cause harms to others and the system made to protect people. Suppose she listens to you, and later they found out papers are forged, this will mean she was part of running her son’s life. Please , save such rubbish for yourself and people like you. Leave this respected lady alone, she is above what you think.

    • Insan=human

      I’ve read just few lines of ur comment.. and want to reply on one thing ..does these Saudi`s are only father`s who abandoned their kids ??

      and guys please this is not the place to fight and rage against each other ..these mothers here have enough to care about , not watching ppl fighting ..

      if u can help or say some nice world`s that would help the mothers here or please .. be silent

      @Saudi Children Left Behind

      please delete all the fighting comments , that will ruin the page and will distract the cause , and takes the website away from the reason it was made for in first place .

  10. Yazed

    Sunny,

    I seems you got a lot of hate and rage against Saudi, wonder why?

    Are you a gold digger that did not succeeded in the her mission? :))

    • Abdulla Aldark

      His name is sunny, so that tells a lot . you know the origin of this name. There are lots of them in Saudis Arabia. دوسوهم على بطونهم

  11. sunny

    @yaz
    I’m not a gold digger and I don’t know any either. I’m married to a Saudi and I have kids the same age as mande. I know how the Saudis think and I’m trying to figure this girls options from what I know. And first off no Saudi is going to help her and yes if signing the papers myself if you want to call it illegal, I for sure will. She comes first. Now mande you say you have had contact with some family members, I find it odd nothing came out of the contacts. Now I’m just guessing on this guys character. Its possible the family doesn’t have a problem with you,but your sons father does. I can see this going both ways on who is in control. The mom or the jerk. And I call him a jerk because he is. And I know he has been watching this blog. If jerk is the one in control of all of this then you are in for it. He’s a bad guy. I know all about this character and I promise you you are lucky this happened. I promise you he is feeding on your desperation, its his character he can’t help it. And who’s to know he could be in america now going to school, but I don’t know what you know. But my next question is , can you some how start a legal case in america against jerk off? I know he’s going to read this. But seek legal action against him and see if you can also pull the family members into it since this is a unique case, very.
    Also, what is this fee you are being charged daily. Will it go away or is it permanent and how much is it? But try to get legal action in Texas against him to stop him or his family members holding that last name when they travel to america, and they will make trips for some reasons..health medical reasons. You never know.

    • The fee i am paying is because Sami is illegal in Guatemala but is Sulaiman signs the paper it will go away for ever because he will get a second nationality so he will be able to study and live here for the time he wants. The fee is because an American Citizen can enter the country without a visa but has 90 days to stay in the country, then the person can ask for another 90 days to stay in Guatemala. So we did that, we came to visit my family on May 28, 2012 because we weren´t able to travel back nor register Sami to be legal here, we asked for another 90 days because i thought by then everything will be solved and i would be able to register Sami in my country. But that never happened because they need Sulaiman to come to sign this paper or sign it in a US embassy.

  12. sunny

    Yazed, are you related to sulaiman, tell the truth.

  13. Joseph

    i feel sorry for u D:
    god help u
    sorry for the short replay but my english isnt good
    الله يساعدك انشاء الله

  14. Hi Mandre! Hope your doing good and your son.. By the way I asked my boyfriend here if he knows this sulaiman,he told me yes.. I show to him the picture of your son’s father ..he asked me at first why I’m asking him about the whereabouts of this guy. You know Saudi guy are the jealous type of a man..I told him that someone is asking some help coz this man have a son. He told me to stay away from this problem.. But you know he just give me some info about this sulaiman. He told me that his family is a bedoo types of tribes. Same with him.(alzharani family) he told that the family of this guy will never accept you and your son as part of their tribes. It can only happen if the man have balls to stand with you and your son.. He will only deny it especially now that his married.. My boyfriend told me to say this advice from him.. He said that just continue to go on with your life and raise your son as a good man someday. He felt sorry for you. He’s ashamed of what this guy did to you. But he told me he can’t meddle in this kind of problems. Not all Saudi man are bad mandre,and neither are you 😊 we don’t choose who we fall and love for. Even me mandre I never expect to fall in love for this man,like you he promised me the moon and the stars.. Lol!! But somehow I still think about whats gonna happen with my future for this guy.. I’m a filipina by the way mandre, and hopefully this year I’m gonna have my vacation.. You know in my relationship with this man for almost 2years, we have a lot of ups and downs… His 3brothers and his bestfriend knows about me.. Only his parents doesn’t know anything about me.. I don’t know if they are suspicious now. I’m living in jeddah and his living in albaha province.. Quiet hard coz I get to see him twice a month.. I almost wanted to give up on this relationship. He visited my family in Manila.. But you know it’s really hard having a relationship with Saudi. Its not about the money coz thank God I have a job here. Though he’s generous enough to provide my needs. I don’t depend on him. I know some people will judge us because they think we only need money.. So pathetic.. But just ignore them. I really include you in my prayer though I don’t know you personally.. Be thankful you have your son. And to this man if only I can have full access I will help you to reach out with him.. But I respect my boyfriend decision.. Mandre, as what I’ve told you before God is good He will never give you anything more than you can handle. God bless you always

    Inte helwah habibti👍

    • Salam angsod,

      Thanks for your kind words and fro trying to help me to reach Sulaiman. I don’t know if Sulaiman is married or not, the last that I knew from his brother was that he was working a lot, going from his parents house to work and work to home. However, I am not interesting to know what he is doing with his personal life, if he is married I wish him the best same to his wife. On the other hand, I am so grateful to have my son, believe me he has changed mu life completely and I don’t regret anything about Sami. I am trying my best to teach him how to be a great man, to respect women, and to have some values inshallah he will be an honorable boy.
      I know that we don’t choose who to love but sometimes we have in our hands the decision to keep it up a relationship or to give up, so if you believe that your boyfriend will stand up for you then never give up. I will keep you in my prayers and if you ever need anything i am here to help you…. As you said this is not about money or getting back Sulaiman, all this is about getting back my son’s freedom back to live a normal life without his father ghost.

      God bless you and best of luck 😉

    • Abdulla Aldark

      Hi Angsod, since you are living in Saudis Arabia, you should no the culture and the religion good enough not to make, such a mistake having a muslem boyfriend, this is wrong by both the country law and the religion. I shall not mention the sever consequence you may face if you get cout, my advice is you should emmediatly either get married, or get yourself out of such relationship. Hope you never get pregnant in such relation, cuz you will be thrown in jail until you have the babi, the rest will be wos( you can emagin it….). Please be careful, most of social medias are under survalience. If it is possible, try to remove your post for your own safety. As your boyfriend said, don’t get yourself into trouble. Believe me it is not as easy as you think. Poor women in US, have no idea about our culture and religion, so they are excused, yet no one can solve their problems. I am just trying to be helpful, and protect you.

    • NA

      If you really love this man ask him to marry you. You don’t want him to do haram, do you? and let me tell you the minute you get pregnant he will leave you. or the minute his mother decides he should get married. Please ask him to marry you. I’m Saudi and I don’t like for someone to do Haram(which is adultery)

  15. sunny

    @angsod
    You should go back and read what you wrote about you boyfriends bedu name and what his replied about sulaimans bedu name. That will answer your question if your boyfriend is serious about you. Funny how love is blind. And he told you your future with him already. There is none. I don’t mean to be rude but tell him no more scex and see how long he sticks around.
    @aldark
    ?.

    • Abdulla Aldark

      This is true, I wanted to say the same, but didn’t want To hurt her feeling. The thing is, she lives in Saudis Arabia, and he has the upper hand on her. She might be in trouble once she stops having sex with him, he will do everything possible to harm her, or get her back and misuse her. Sorry to say this , but she is in a complicated situation.

  16. sunny

    she wont leave, I all ready know. and she wont be in danger if she does. if she does it right that is. but she wont leave and stay gone like you say, because she couldn’t see the small signs that are screaming at her in plain sight. I got her whole life with this guy in just the small paragraph she wrote. she is addicted to the false love he gives her and she will play the tug a war game he starts on her until hes found someone else. but for now shes a fun game. and most likely not the only one. a true trophy girl.

  17. sunny

    I would like to send a message to sulaiman. I would like to ask sulaiman to please go to mangre in her country and give her what she request from you. I don’t know mandre at all, I only know of her from the blog. I can tell you sulaiman that she is a really good person and has a good heart. this type of people are scattered in the world they do exist and good luck finding one again. but that is not my plead to you. I don’t care if you don’t want her anymore, but if you carry a heart just half of hers, will you go and full fill her request. I know she will cry to you and be emotional, but in the end she will full fill your request on her. I know this type of person and this type you trust. this type is all emotions and the heart ones and in the end they can be trusted. she wont deny you and she will always be a friend even if you step on her. its is sad but it is how this type of people are. if you are ashamed or need to hide it from your family, then she will acknowledge all you want, because she cares and doesn’t judge. you do whatever it takes even if it is in secret from the family, but contact her please. trust her. and I am not a friend of hers and I never met her. she did not tell me to write this I swear..wallahi. i don’t even live in her country.

  18. heavenly flower

    I am just yesterday has saw this blog…it is very shocking..as I am Saudi woman

    no body in saudi arabia trust saudi guy…saudi guys are worst creature ever live in this earth..they have sick chauvanist upbringing since they are small!!

    Saudi parents teach there children that woman are shame! and must be obedient, otherwise, she must be killed or caged!

    while saudi guys, are honour just being boys!!! and they as men, they can do anything, its halal! and if they done some horrible thing, every body said come on, he is man!!! just forget it!!!

    This is the hypocrite saudi male culture..but luckily, in internet century, this sick male culture has exposed!!!

    my advice to you Mandre, is to spread your story about al rajhi family as possible as you can!!! its known religious family in saudi arabia..however, as I mention how hypocrite saudi male culture is, so you can understand why this happen

    if its spread enough, it will make their life nightmare, as its famous family, I know that you don’t want revenge, and thats not the point, if they have bad reputation and nightmare, they will seek you!!!! belive me!!!!

    go to youtube, twitter, saudi forums spread this as you can!!!

    you will reach your goal inshallah!!!

    wa assalu alaikom

    • heavenly flower, thanks for your words. Inshallah one day Sami will get his freedom and sulaiman will be responsible for our son.

  19. Ali

    Sami: you ve got great mum.

  20. Renee

    Me da mucho miedo pensar que la familia de el te contacto y quiera quitarte El Niño yo en mi caso ni le puse el nombre o apellido del padre por la misma razón q no quiera estar estancada Necesitando la firma de el aSi que no lo incluí en su acta de nacimiento.. Yo ya no hablo para nada con Hamad xq el en cada holiday me llama y bueno nunca pregunta x su hijo o solo m dice q quiere prueba d ADN o que valla a Egipto para hacerla aya .. Esta Loco si piensa q voy arriesgar mi bebé d solo 9 meses o años q tuviera para q me lo quiten .. Eso jamás !! Es mío y ya , el es quien le va dar cuentas a Allah cuando llegue su momento

    • Hola Renee,

      Yo le di la firma a Sulaiman porque el queria firmarlo y como era su derecho segun la ley de Estados Unidos ibamos a tener que ir a corte para decidirlo y al final le iban a dejar firmar los papeles como dijo el abogado. Es una situacion complicada pero Allah sabe mejor y tarde o temprano habra solucion para Sami. Espero que tu bebe y tu un dia tengan justicia, pero sobre todo espero que sean felices y que nada empañe esta felicidad. Allah los bendiga y les provea siempre. Un abrazo

  21. tariq

    كان الله في عونك
    اختي..اذا لم يستجيبوا لك يجب رفع قضيه في اي محكمه دوليه لضمان حق ابنك..

    اما بالنسبه لسليمان لن يرجع لكم..

  22. Im in The situation plz contact me at renpretty1@gmail.com

  23. abdullah

    I am soo sad to hear all these stories
    I would be happy if there any way I could help
    my name is Abdullah .I live in Jeddah – saudia Arabia
    we have this TV show call al thamenah (8)
    http://www.facebook.com/mbc8pm
    0096614418266 fax
    8@mbc.net
    for years he was a part of solution in many problem
    they can push things forward and put pressure on these people ..
    I hope u read my post ..god plus you and your son…
    just mail them and send them faxes ,,,make them notice

  24. Magdalena

    Dear Mandre
    I found this website yesterday and I can’t stop thinking about your case.
    I am a fatherless child too.My biological father was Jewish.He left my mother 23 years ago and few months later died.My mother’s mom was Jewish even though my father’s family was very reluctant to accept me. Now I am 22 and I know where my roots are.I have got a wond erful family in Israel – my mother’s cousins. My grandparents hit the roof every time they hear my name.
    I am the only grandaughter and my father’s parents were shameless enough to abandon me.I feel no responsibility for them….That’s my story.Sometimes it is definitely better to forget about suchy people.Nonetheless,it is painful.
    Stay strong and blessed.I admire you.
    Magdalena

    • Magdalena, Thanks for sharing with me your story. Let me tell you, you are very brave and I really admire you. Many blessings for you and keep being an inspiration.

    • Abdulla Aldark

      Exactly, that is the case, it is always about the religion, the are all ashamed to accept, but not a shame to abanden. Muslems, Jews…both too proud to have mercy on their owns. They think, they have strong faith, yet show weak one. Some families, ( races…)compare themselves to the god, they think they are so perfect, and think they will never make mistake, surprisly, they find trapped, the easiest way for them is to run away and flee proud. These kind of people are sick,they were born sick, the live sick, and the die sick. Soon the will instinct. We need a world with people who can give, sacrifice, love, respect,and most of all forgive.

  25. saudi girl

    habibti mandrechangsami,

    I’m a Saudi girl and I have a really good solution even though it may sound hard, but I heard about a woman in your situation who succeeded doing this. What you should do is to make a case against him at a court in Dubai (or any where in the UAE). if he travels to the UAE he will be arrested in the airport and be forced to give you what you’re asking for(signing Sami’s papers), because he definitely doesn’t want to bring his family’s reputation down. Since he comes from a rich family, he definitely travels to Dubai constantly.

  26. 3wishiqalreem

    suilman is from wealthy Al-Rajhi family. So, you will understand hameed alrasheed angry, he afraid from this family. therefore, he stops your letter from going to Riyadh and instruct his employees to ignore you and yours calls. you have one sloution, you should contact the Saudi King office and explain every thing to them. Also, attached suilman picture and each documents.

    call this number
    00966920030003

    or use their website

    https://tawasol.royalcourt.gov.sa

    • Thanks for your message. I will contact them as soon as I can, do you think they will speak in english if i call? I don’t speak many arabic and i can understand a bit. Now it makes sense why they never answer and why Mr. AlRasheed was so angry.

      Once again thanks a lot! may Allah bless you

  27. Nouf

    Hi
    I’m a saudi wemon from Riyadh
    And i feel bad are you and your son Sami,i hope you find him soon 😦

  28. faisal

    i am very sorry, i almost cried, some people want babies, and some are throwing them.
    watching the face of a baby, his innocent face, is killing me sometimes
    i don’t know how people think
    what is the reason? don’t they think they will regret it.

    • Just they know what are their reason to do this to their own son’s and daughters but Allah knows best. Please keep Sami in your prayers 😉

  29. Insan=human

    NOTICE :
    my first comment is reply @sunny ”where am talking about ppl fighting each other in comments ”

    *******************************************
    it`s heart breaking to see these kids and their mother`s suffering this because of someone wanted to live Hollywood movies life , and following his desires without caring or considering any thing ..consequences , kids future , mother`s future..

    my words here is to Mandrechangsami and all the other mothers
    here ,

    he may escaped
    he may run away

    but god will not let him run away with that
    god will punish him sooner or later
    prophet Muhammad said (peace be upon him) : ” god give a chance but does not neglect ”

    may god give you and all mothers and the son`s/daughter`s the strength and courage .

    may god have mercy on u all .

    • Salaim Alaikum Insan=human,

      Wow! Thanks a lot for your kind words, sometimes is good to be remained that Allah will grant justice sooner than later. Thorough the years (Sami is about to turn 4 in January) I’ve learn to be strong for my son, to keep fighting to get his freedom no matter how long will take, to pray for Sulaiman, and most of all to be patience on Allah’s plans. I know Sami will be free one day and that Sulaiman will regret his decision, but i don’t wish him any bad.

      Once again, thanks for your message, it filled my heart up! Jazakallah khair!

  30. Kholoud

    How could he leaves his son ?!!!! حسبي الله ونعم الوكيل 💔💔💔 I feel sorry about sami

    • I don’t know but i am sure that Allah will grant justice to Sami and he will be a happy life when he gets his freedom. Thanks for your kind words.

      • .

        Can you tell us what happened. Did he gave you Samis peppers ?

      • Thanks for being worried about us. There are no updates so far about Sami’s case, because Sulaiman haven’t communicate with us to sign Sami’s papers 😦 So Sami is still illegal in Guatemala, and owns a very huge fine. Please keep Sami in your prayers.

  31. Abdullah-11

    Thats so hard and I wish you start a new life
    about what happened to you . I would recommend you just forget the past and start to bulid your life and start to collect money as much as you can to assist your life and you son life in future and keep prying to Allah
    . Also forgot Suliman and Im sure that one day he will think to much about it in future and he will call you . However you have to check about your Email maybe one day he will send email to you . I wish better life for you and Allah bless you my dear

    Best regards
    Abdullah

    • Salam Abdullah,

      Thanks for your nice words and wishes. I moved on long ago and since almost 4 years I have been seen what to do to support my son as much as I can. However, sometimes it’s hard because the pressure of the fine for him being illegal is so heavy, but inshallah one day i would be able to pay his expenses (school, food, clothing, etc) and also the fine without worrying.

      Also I have forgiven Sulaiman since long ago, and I have been praying for him, because even he caused and still causing a big pain for me and Sami he is still Sami’s father. Inshallah one day he will communicate to solve Sami main problem that is not being able to go to his country or any where.

      Blessings and Jazakallah Khair brother.

      Umm Sami

  32. Ebrahim

    PRAY TO GOD EVERY DAY TO GET YOUR REVNGE FROM THAT GUY AND HIS FAMILY. TRY TO CONTACT YOUR SON’S FAMILY AND, TELL THEM I DO NOT WANT YOUR FUCKING MONEY, ALL I WANT IS MY SON’S FREEDOM!!!

    • I already contacted his family and let them know by actions that I am not a gold digger, I explained them that I don’t want their money because Alhamdulillah Sami has all he needs for the effort of his mom. Inshallah one day Sami will get justice and his freedom.

  33. Hassn

    I’m saudi and I feel sorry about you and your son , I hope and a pray to his father , to see your massage ,We are humans we have harts to feelings, you left your child and your wife behind you why ?? That’s is a real question , I’m sorry for you and i hope insh’allh a beautiful life for you and your son

  34. Muhammed

    I am Saudi and I feel sorry about you and Sami, honestly speaking I do not think that you followed the right way to get your rights and your son’s right back. you have to resort to the Saudi courts as I think you gave him sufficient time and you are ready for any amicable settlements while he does not care about you and his son.

    • I don’t have any idea about Saudi courts, if this will help Sami to get his papers then i would definitely do it… Also i though that by going to the Saudi Embassy, contact awaseer, and ministry of foreign affairs will be useful but it wasn’t.

  35. Ahmed

    Damn you Sillyman (Suliman) you’re low and coward!

  36. Abdulla aldark

    When women from Saudia Arabia, takes them years, to get anything out of the men.
    Sometimes, they are even refused.
    How long, and how much, do you think, it will take her, to do it. She is a single mother, with no resources..be real, ask Sulaiman, to go and signe a piece of paper and this nightmare will be over.
    Why everyone think, she has to do everything, and no one is writing few words to Sulaiman, to wake up, and look around and go do the right thing once and for all…no one will harm him simply because no one wants him, he is not man enough for any woman , Mandre, just made a mistake, that she regrets, and she can’t fix alone as far as I see.

  37. I thing that is abig broblem but I give som advice to help you once go to acourt or do some adviserment on newspaper in saudi by arabic

  38. Am sad to hear this stores but you can do something in tv showes or newspapers to helpe you

  39. ABT

    I felt great empathy toward you as I read your story. You are going through a tough situation and I pray to God to pave you a way toward relief. May Allah ease your troubled situation and bring you and your Sami comfort, peace, and solacee.

    We live in a time where many muslims don’t understand the true meaning of being a muslim!! That is especially true in countries like Saudi Arabia, where certain elements of culture and tradition gracefully morphed itself into the face of religion, and to a large extent drive religious ideologies. Ironically, muslims from western countries generally demonstrate more of the characteristics of a real muslim than Arab muslims who were born and raised in muslim dominate countries.

    Allah is not the God of only the muslims, but he is the God of all humanity. Thus, he won’t be passing judgment based on labels people identify with, such as “muslim”, “Sunni” “Shi’ite”, etc, but rather on intentions and what lies beneath the surface, that is, the heart.

    I say all this because I feel a sense of embarrassment due to the behavior of some Arab muslims (particularly Saudi), especially when they engage with non-muslim societies and cultures. Each muslim should be an ambassador of Islam. It should be their duty to demonstrate to others true islamic values (such as kindness, honesty, integrity, respect, etc.), through their actions. But rather than being revered by people of other faiths, they more so than not, behave in a disgraceful manner that taints the image of islam.

    Unfortunately, many Saudis that travel to western countries consider women there as “free play”. They see the hyper-liberal women of the west with the tight short shorts and the skimpy cocktail dresses and the casual sex culture and they quickly see an opportunity. For many, thoughts along the lines of “If she doesn’t respect herself then why should I?” are not too uncommon. I honestly completely disagree with this hyper-liberal culture of western women, but this non the less does not justify the behavior of these Saudis. As a mentally sound human each one of them is responsible for his actions and should live up to doing the right thing, whether that is being part of the child’s life or at least supporting and assuring a better standard of living for his child.

    I do not know you sister, but through what you have written, you seem like a good person, and I believe that you are a better muslim than many of the muslims I see around me today. Many of the greatest people of all time (including prophets’ Jesus and Mohammed) have gone through life trials and difficult times. But it is through these times that they learned some valuable lessons and had grown intellectually and spiritually. God will sometimes put certain people in your life to give you a clearer perspective on what really matters in life and give to you the opportunity to become a better person.

    Unfortunately I do not have anything to offer but my prayers. May Allah ease your distress and bring to you and Sami comfort and joy.

  40. shadia

    Salaam Aleykum Sister,

    I really saddened by your story, I can’t stand Muslims who care more about what people think rather than fearing Allah(s.w.t) and do the right thing. All I can tell you sister, is that not all Muslims are like this, my own brother got a girl pregnant and my mom heard and she gave him two options, he either marry the girl or my mum would go get the child and raise it herself as the girl was thinking of giving my nephew up for adoption. because of my mum he married her! and they are still together 10yrs on with 2 more kids.

    I feel these Saudi men come from families with low morals, with no one to guide each other when they do something wrong. I cannot understand how a whole family, his father, mother, sisters, uncles can just pretend Sami does not exist! if I was little Sami’s aunt, there is no way my nephew would be in the situation! my brother would never hear the end of this story. How can the women of these man’s family have no empathy for a fellow woman or for their nephew who is their blood! maybe they are also oppressed and have no say in anything. Subhanallah!

    Be strong sister and make dua to Allah subhana wa Tacaala because only your creator has the power to resolve your situation or change Suleiman’s heart.

    Lastly kuddos for telling your story, it takes a brave person to put such deep personal story out there and it should be a lesson to other women in the west who meet these men from the middle east. I will also show this site to my neighbour’s niece who last week told me she met a Saudi man here in Melbourne Australia. I told her to be very careful as he is not going to marry her, he will go back to Saudi and marry his virgin cousin, I don’t think she took my advice seriously and by accident I found this site which i will show her when she visits again. I don’t want to see another woman shafted by these weak Saudi men.

    I wish you success in your situation and all I can to is make dua for you.

  41. Gigi

    hello mandre,

    reading this post I have to say this: they lied to you again…..and made you spent 300 USD on this test……If they were honest they would go to any saudi court to start the proceedings for recognition of his child and with a DNA order issued by the court they would go and do the test in Riyadh while sending you a copy of the order through the Saudi Embassy in Guatemala where you son resides to make the test at any government hospital for free…..Then through the Saudi embassy again you would send back the copy to the Ministry of Justice to continue with the court proceedings and finalize….After that they would apply to the dpt of civil affairs to register the kid with the court order in hand…..Nevertheless they did not mind making you pay the 300 USD for fun and then ignore you….What a shame really…..

    Nevertheless after all this proof of him and his family making all this joke around an innocent child I wonder why you dont file for abandonment in your country and then get your sons freedom???

    I personally would not even want to talk to this Suleiman or his family after all these insults! Actually if they even changed their mind I would personally be so angry and disgusted in them they would not even be able to find me again any more………
    I would only leave their details to my son if he wants later on to locate his father after 18 but I would personally not allow people that insult me and my child to be anywhere near me…..

    Haven’t you thought that what they are doing is abuse towards you and your kid?

    • Hi Gigi,

      There is not Saudi Embassy in Guatemala, the nearest is in Washington DC where I already went. I also think they were playing games with my son and made me spent a lot of money just because they thought it was funny.

      However, last year I started an abandonment case in my country but so far I have no results yet, and I am still paying the lawyer to get his freedom because I don’t believe Sami deserves to be treated like this, hopefully we will get his freedom soon but it has been complicated since they need to find him before give me his freedom, because they want to know that i didn’t kipnap my son from his father, they still believe he is a good father. I am also planning to travel to the USA to start a case in there as well, because Sami is a US citizen, the lawyer also suggested to file a child support just to be sure that is Sulaiman go to US they will pay for what he did, so hopefully Sami will get his freedom internationally.

      We are still paying for the fee for being illegal in my country, but thanks God we are doing fine, he is growing so fast and healthy. Sometimes he has asked about Sulaiman, but is not something that he can’t live with. He saw his pictures, asked questions, and keep living without him, maybe when he gets older will ask more questions.

      I pray every day for my son’s freedom and justice.

    • Khalid

      Islamic courts can’t help her if she have out-of-wedlock child. All Muslims know about that.

      • The files are being held in western courts (Guatemala and USA) not in Islamic courts since we are living in western countries we follow their laws not Sharia. So the abandonment and child support case basically bans Sulaiman to have rights over my children and face the law when he puts a feet in the USA or in Guatemala.

  42. Gigi

    Hello Mandre,

    I think your abandonment case will ultimately work. Mind you if it is an abandonedment case they don’t need to actually find him because all mothers that apply for abandonment is because their other half has disappeared! In this regards I believe Suleiman has proved himself more than enough and you will get it in no time.

    He seems to be only a biological father and I believe that in this day and age there is no stigma attached in the west and most kids accept it and differentiate it with respect to a proper father figure.

    I think the best justice for your son is to become a successfull and balanced individual as he grows up and hopefully if you remarry to be with someone that will accept him along with any other children you will have in the future.

    As things stand I truly do not see that Suleiman will register his kid in his country – he showed his indifference and abuse in a steady and consistent manner over a number of years and even tried to turn it to a joke between friends and family who actually seem no different than him. How terrible a group of men abusing a woman and a child like this………

    Wish you good luck in the future….!

    • Hello Gigi,

      The abandonment case is starting to work but is taking time to be complete, i started the proccess in Guatemala on July 2016 and we are still waiting to get the final decision. After this case, i will go to USA courts to file a case to be completely sure that Sulaiman don’t have rights over my son.

      Thanks God Sami is growing up with a great self-esteem, loved and balance in all the aspects of his life. Some times he has asked about Sulaiman, see some of his pictures, asked some questions and then he keeps going with his life… Maybe as he gets older he will be more interested to find his dad, but at his 5 years he is doing great and not judged (at least not in the western). He is a Smart Little and joyful Little boy and hopefully his smile and happiness will last forever,, regarding is Sulaiman’s appears or not, but he is still praying for his biological father every night. To be honest, when all this started i was frighted and in panic thinking how my child’s life will be without his dad, nowadays I believe that Sami is dong okay and when he gets older he will be able to choose whether he wants to search for his dad or not.

      Also I am not interested (maybe Sami will me in the future, but i don’t think so) to register Sami in KSA, i was just looking for Sulaiman to sign the papers to let Sami be legal in Guatemala and give me the full custody of my son. Hopefully, soon we will be granted with it.

      Hugs,

      Mandre

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